Type A? Type B? (12/19/2006)

I always thought I was an "A" Type personality...


Who of us hasn't taken a personality test? Whether just for fun, or for a company we worked for...we have all had many occasions to take such tests. BUT I recently had a personality test done again....and I was shocked to see that it said that I was a "B+" type. Here is what it said:


You Have a Type B+ Personality

You're a pro at going with the flow.

You love to kick back and take in everything life has to offer.

A total joy to be around, people crave your stability.

While you're totally laid back, you can have bouts of hyperactivity.

Get into a project you love, and you won't stop until it's done.

You're passionate - just selective about your passions.


SO....Why the change I wonder? Well, I think that the process of reevaluating your life while facing your mortality makes you stop and think. It makes you contemplate the value of life and the quality as well. Soon to follow is the determination of where you are in your life and then you may start to make efforts to change and redefine your priorities. I feel pretty stable in my life – always have. I've always believed in standing up for myself, my dreams and my desires. I was raised to believe that it was "my life" and that I had the ability and right to make the choices that would change or enhance my life. I know that this statement in itself sounds a bit self-centered. BUT - somehow, my parents were able to instill in me the quality of empathy.

You know that “little voice”…That little voice that tells me that it isn't ok to ignore or interrupt someone when they are speaking. That little voice that tells me to be genuinely concerned about what my friends are going thru and what they are living and saying. That little voice that tells me to remember that small things in the lives of people that I care about. That little voice that says to apologize when I hurt someone's feelings...even if it isn't solely my fault. That little voice that says to buy someone a gift without reason, just because it makes me think of them. That little voice that says to extend kindness to those who aren't kind to me. That little voice that says to give to those who have less than me. That little voice that says to always remember who I am, who I represent and the consequences of my actions. (XO-D)

Where did that little voice come from? I think that we all have a little voice from the moment we enter this world. The trick is to have it trained and nurtured. My parents nurtured my conscience as a child and helped train the voice that guided my actions. My parents taught me to believe in myself and to stand up for what I believed in regardless of any opposition. My parents actually "PARENTED" me in the beginning of my life. They nurtured my soul. They shaped my "being."

I am forever in awe of them. AND, when finally I look at my personality "type," I can always read what a random test might say, but what I have to know is that I am ok with who I am and that I have faith in the kind of persons that my parents are and the kind of person that they raised.

I'm not saying that I have a grip on life, or that I have any of the answers in the big scheme of things. What I am saying is that I will enjoy each moment as a gift and treasure the journey and the small things, knowing that I have chosen my path based on strong intuitions and some solid thought process. I have concluded that it is the small things and the small moments that really stick with you and make the solid basis of a stable life.

Keeping this in mind, I think that it is vital to our existence to be willing to get to know others. If we care, we have a responsibility to make an attempt to honestly understand where someone is “coming from” in their thoughts and ideas. People are different – That is what makes the world go around – But that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t know why someone does something or why they feel the way they do. We should never assume that we know what someone is about. Most likely we have no clue. We should ask and most importantly, LISTEN to what they say. We don’t have to agree. But we do have to respect what they think and what they feel. Honestly, we don’t even have to understand….BUT, we still have to respect a person’s thoughts and ideas. And if we care about them, we will take the time to know.

So…who in your life cares about you? Who in your life knows you? Who in your life is too self-absorbed to take the time…those questions are probably easy for all of us to ask and answer. BUT…more importantly, Do I care about those in my life? Do I know them? Am I too self-absorbed to take the time?

In a season that is supposed to be based on giving, peace, love and joy…We would all do well to ask ourselves this question:

What have I done to promote love, joy, peace, and giving?

Change begins with the smallest of actions, not just intentions.

I hope you are all able to find a way to show those in your lives that you care about that you do in fact CARE about them and wish them LOVE, JOY, and PEACE.